You inherited work ethic and productivity, and the ability to pivot on a pinheaded! You accomplished a lot during your break, because it is intended that you exceed your desires! Great post, as usual!
I really identify with this. Especially today. I buried my mom a little over a week ago after seeing her through years of decline from dementia. The very next day I started getting my daughter ready to return to college - laundry, packing, errands. It's not a complaint. I truly love spending that time with her, getting her organized, helping her set herself up for success in another year of learning. My husband and I rolled in at 11:00 last night and I'm looking around this morning and just seeing so much to do - there's work on wrapping up Mom's final bills and estate stuff, organizing the hundreds of photos I pawed through making a photo display for her funeral. My kids' rooms need tidying so they are ready when they come home next. I've been ignoring hundreds of weeds in the garden. And I'm back to work tomorrow. But if I took real time off, I'd be just like you and your mom. I don't actually know how to do leisure. I wouldn't know what to do with myself. I'd tackle every project in the world and wonder why I never feel rested. Makes me wonder if my kids feel about me the way you do about your mom. Do they wish I'd just sit down for a moment, put my feet up, stop working so hard? You've really got me thinking. Maybe my next "big project" should be still ness. Thank you. 💕
My friend I am so sorry about the loss of your mom. And thank you so very much for sharing yourself with me and us in this way. I’m sure your kids love you and respect you in equal measure. Which is to say…. Insurmountably.
Everything in here is so relatable. The wanting your mom to sit DOWN. Not knowing how to yourself. The feelings that come when you finally do (guilt? Inadequacy?) Like you said, rest is indeed a labor and a practice. As I practice it, I try to assure myself that it’s what all the mothers before me would want for me.
I feel this and I've picked up early morning habits like my mother did too. I also struggle with resting and taking breaks because I believe that if I sit down somewhere then the things that need to get done won't get done.
Whew! Nobody warned us how hard it would be to raise our hardheaded parents as they age. I think I tell my dad the same thing the same amount of times each week "PLEASE get somewhere and SAT DOWN!!!"
this is what i tell my momma also. i want her to relax but she seems to find purpose in work.
I’m so worried about this lady health.
Love Afro futurism.
You inherited work ethic and productivity, and the ability to pivot on a pinheaded! You accomplished a lot during your break, because it is intended that you exceed your desires! Great post, as usual!
I really identify with this. Especially today. I buried my mom a little over a week ago after seeing her through years of decline from dementia. The very next day I started getting my daughter ready to return to college - laundry, packing, errands. It's not a complaint. I truly love spending that time with her, getting her organized, helping her set herself up for success in another year of learning. My husband and I rolled in at 11:00 last night and I'm looking around this morning and just seeing so much to do - there's work on wrapping up Mom's final bills and estate stuff, organizing the hundreds of photos I pawed through making a photo display for her funeral. My kids' rooms need tidying so they are ready when they come home next. I've been ignoring hundreds of weeds in the garden. And I'm back to work tomorrow. But if I took real time off, I'd be just like you and your mom. I don't actually know how to do leisure. I wouldn't know what to do with myself. I'd tackle every project in the world and wonder why I never feel rested. Makes me wonder if my kids feel about me the way you do about your mom. Do they wish I'd just sit down for a moment, put my feet up, stop working so hard? You've really got me thinking. Maybe my next "big project" should be still ness. Thank you. 💕
My friend I am so sorry about the loss of your mom. And thank you so very much for sharing yourself with me and us in this way. I’m sure your kids love you and respect you in equal measure. Which is to say…. Insurmountably.
Thank you again for your words. For reading b
Everything in here is so relatable. The wanting your mom to sit DOWN. Not knowing how to yourself. The feelings that come when you finally do (guilt? Inadequacy?) Like you said, rest is indeed a labor and a practice. As I practice it, I try to assure myself that it’s what all the mothers before me would want for me.
Thank you for sharing!
There is something kind of sacred in thinking about rest as a practice though. I could (and have) practiced worse things.
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts with me. For reading and reaching out. It means everything.
Ohh “I could and have practiced worse things.” Im going to borrow that 💕💕
I feel this and I've picked up early morning habits like my mother did too. I also struggle with resting and taking breaks because I believe that if I sit down somewhere then the things that need to get done won't get done.
Thank you so much for reading !
Everything feels like pressure somehow
Whew! Nobody warned us how hard it would be to raise our hardheaded parents as they age. I think I tell my dad the same thing the same amount of times each week "PLEASE get somewhere and SAT DOWN!!!"